Mental health challenges affect people of all ages, but men and women often show different signs. For men, starting a conversation with a primary care provider can be a helpful first step, and it is important to remember that mental health issues are treatable.
Ryan Voigt, Psy.D., a psychologist at Sanford Health Alexandria Clinic in Minnesota, supports men seeking mental health care. He emphasizes that many have faced similar struggles, sought treatment, and improved. Despite progress, stigma around men and mental health persists, creating barriers to care.
In the United States, men are nearly four times more likely than women to die by suicide. Dr. Voigt notes, “For many men, seeking help is still viewed as a sign of weakness. Messages like ‘pull yourself up by your bootstraps’ or ‘real men don’t cry’ are common and harmful.” These cultural stereotypes discourage men from asking for help.
Men and women experience similar mental health disorders with symptoms such as mood changes, sleep difficulties, concentration problems, persistent sadness, and thoughts of suicide. However, men often express symptoms differently, showing escapist behaviors like excessive work or sports, increased irritability, risky actions, or even abusive tendencies.
Although men make up half the population, they account for 80% of suicides. This gap is linked to stigma, a tendency to self-treat, and downplaying symptoms. “More women attempt suicide, but men more often use lethal means,” Dr. Voigt explains. “This highlights why men need to talk about their mental health—it can save lives.”
Recognizing the need for help often starts with loved ones noticing changes. Research shows men are less likely to seek mental health support and may require encouragement. Dr. Voigt shares, “Often, others say, ‘You seem more irritable,’ or ‘You’re drinking more.’ People might not fully understand their own changes until someone points them out.” Open conversations can reveal underlying stressors like job loss or relationship troubles.
Social and cultural pressures shape men’s reluctance to seek care. “The idea that men must be tough and handle things alone is deeply ingrained,” says Dr. Voigt. This emphasis on independence discourages asking for help, which can be harmful.
Other obstacles include access issues, such as long travel distances in rural areas, unreliable internet for telehealth, financial concerns, or work commitments.
Friends and family can play a crucial role by gently checking in. Dr. Voigt advises, “If someone says they’re fine, ask again—‘How are you really?’—to show genuine care.” Sometimes, inviting a man for a walk and talk can encourage openness. “Walking side-by-side feels less confrontational than face-to-face.”
For those ready to seek support, starting with a primary care provider is practical. “It’s often easier to approach and someone you already know,” Dr. Voigt says. Doctors can refer patients to specialized mental health services and offer guidance.
Reliable online resources also exist, but caution is necessary to avoid misleading information. “Good tools can help you understand your situation better,” Dr. Voigt adds.
Ultimately, breaking down stigma and encouraging men to seek help can improve mental health outcomes and save lives.
Related Topics
